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Old 11-21-2006, 03:56 PM   #11
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Honestly, I think it is a little too soon after Ephraim's birth to make a decision like that. Your hormones are still wonky and you can't trust yourself to make a good decision about this, kwim?? Its the same reason pregnant women aren't supposed to make any BIG decisions while pregnant, the hormones affect your brain!!!

Why don't you wait 6-8 months and see how you feel then? Maybe there's a long weekend your DH could get it done later and still have time to recover. I don't think that 27 and 30 is too young for the procedure, but you guys should give it lots of thought.

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Old 11-21-2006, 04:05 PM   #12
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we have a 6 year old, 11 month old, and another due the end of March. we are 26 and 27. since the 3rd happened so fast (15 months apart) we have decided to wait a couple of years before making any drastic or permanent decisions. just make sure you are BOTH certain before any decision is made.
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Old 11-21-2006, 04:06 PM   #13
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Dh and I were 23 when we decided. I wasn't totally on board but dh got the vas. I've ended up needing a hysterectomy anyway (which was 10/10) so we *are* done and it was decided at 23 (and just made very very permanent last month). We think we'd like to adopt at some point though. Some time when our boys get into school...several years in the future. And this isn't because we weren't able to have anymore biological children, this is something we'd discussed before #2 was born while we were both still very fertile.

I meant to add that I agree with one of the previous posters...I don't think it's age as much as the uncertainty that would make the big V a rash decision.
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Honestly, I think it is a little too soon after Ephraim's birth to make a decision like that. Your hormones are still wonky and you can't trust yourself to make a good decision about this, kwim?? Its the same reason pregnant women aren't supposed to make any BIG decisions while pregnant, the hormones affect your brain!!!

Why don't you wait 6-8 months and see how you feel then? Maybe there's a long weekend your DH could get it done later and still have time to recover. I don't think that 27 and 30 is too young for the procedure, but you guys should give it lots of thought.

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I totally agree. I am all for waiting for big decisions like that. You would hate to get it done, only to regret your decision in year or two.
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Old 11-21-2006, 04:28 PM   #15
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I don't think the age should bew an issue. When you're done, you know you're done. My mom had her tubes tied at 26, after 4 kids. She KNEW she was done. If you're not sure about it, don't do it.
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Hi. It depends on what you both feel is right. I'm 29 hubby is 31. We have five kids ages 9 and under. He had the big "V" done about 5 months ago. We knew it was the right decision for us. I would like more but my pregs are really hard and they are hard on the kids. So we agreed 5 is it. Its a hard decision.
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I wouldn't say it's to young.If you truely know you don't want any more kids than it would be right but if you may want more it ain't.I'm 29 and my husband is 31 and after having our 3rd daughter in August i had a tubal.We both knew that we didn't want any more kids.
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I don't think it is too young at all. I am 25 and Dh is 27 and he is having a vasectimy done in January.

It's acually a very hard decision for me. I probebly would have another baby but I am making sure that we dont'. Financially it makes little sense for us to have another one. Not to mention my mental stabilitly....That sounds horrible but I really dont' think I can handle any more children. IMO just because you want to have more children doesn't mean you should...if you have valid reasons why you also shouldn't....does that makes sense? It's just hard to shut the door on this chapter of my life already because it has gone by so fast and I can't believe that I'm really about to be done having children....so I feel you!

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I dont think your age is as important as your uncertainty...I thought I was done after #3. We just never got around to dh getting the vas. Now were expecting number 4 and sooo happy now. We know this is it and dh had vas when I was 12 weeks pg. We have also talked about adoption... it's a possibilty in the future.
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Re: Does 27 & 30 seem young to say no more??

We've been wrestling with this very situation. DH is 36 and I'm 31 and there are days that either DH or I decides we should schedule the vas. appointment for the next available time, but there are other days that I would LOVE to have more babies. My pregnancies are easy and labors are short and easy so those two things don't really weigh in for us. Our biggest issue right now is lack of space and the fact that our last two are 53 weeks apart.
Sorry I don't have any solutions for you, but I guess I'd have to agree w/most of the PPs that if you're not 200% sure you're done having kids don't get something permanent done.
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