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Old 11-30-2006, 02:40 PM   #1
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Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years (Paperback)
by Jim Fay, Charles Fay
http://www.amazon. com/Love- Logic-Magic- Early-Childhood/ dp/1930429002/ sr=8-2/qid= 1164865618/ ref=pd_bbs_ sr_2/104- 9773083-9200707? ie=UTF8&s=books

I highly recommend reading this book. I am learning so much from it and I've tried some it on both kids 3 and 11 and it's working! Now I just have to retrain my parenting style. Why is it so easy for me to be calm with my 3 yr old but when it comes to my 11 yr old I have no patience and have trouble staying calm with her?

I borrowed it from the public library but am planning on buying a copy. Really if you haven't already read it, please do! Lots of great current reviews of it on amazon.


Here are some examples of how I used Love & Logic with my kids:

A big thing with me and Isabella(my 11 yr old) is arguing. Instead of arguing you are to use empathy statements, and say the same statement over and over...here's an example
Isabella: "Mom I need a fluffy jacket for our school preformance."
Mom: " You mean you want a new jacket? Well it's not an option right now we will have to make do with what you already have."
Isabella: (yelling) "No I need a fluffy jacket. Everyone else is going to be wearing one and we are doing the song from The Cheetah Girls and we have to have a fluffy jacket!"
(Here's where the empathy is used)
Mom: "I know"
Isabella:" I need the jacket right now!"
Mom: "I know"
Isabella: "NO I NEED THE JACKET RIGHT NOW!"
Mom: "I know"
Isabella:" But Katie's mom bought her a new jacket."
Mom: "I know"
Isabella: "But mom..."
Mom: "I love you too much to argue."

Eventually she quit bugging me because she knew I wasn't gonna give in.

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It is very hard to do, not to argue. They say with younger kids offer them choices.

Here is another example: Tyler(my 3 yr old) took some crayons when I didn't know and colored all over the bathroom counter and some on the bath tub and some on the wall. He came to me to tell me of his work and when I saw it I had to bite my tongue to not get angry.I said, "Tyler this is so sad, we don't use crayons on the counter,walls or tub. I asked him, "What are you going to do to fix it?" He thought for a second,repiled,"Get a towel (then he made a motion with his hands like he was wiping)." He went and got the wet wipe towel and went over and began to clean it himself. I asked him if he would like me to help and he said yes.

They say turn every mistake into a learning opportunity and when possible guide your child to solve their problems.

It's really is a great book it has much more info than that in it. And many examples which I'm sure many of us can relate to or understand easily.

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Thank you for sharing this info!!! I could use a book helping me with some issues w/DD!
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Just wanted to say that I love Love and Logic. I took a class on it and it is awesome!
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I have that book too! Now if only I could find it Its a really good resource
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