Diaper Swappers

armywife08 · 09-12-2009, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by HippieMama74

Thanks Jen for posting that. I have so many emotions right now. The not knowing and yet being pretty sure my baby is gone all at the same time. Having to be here to support my dd during her pregnancy is goin to be the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It's hard enough to see other people around you who's pregnancy sticks when your doesn't. Since my dd and I were only about 4 weeks apart I will be living with a daily reminder of the baby I lost. Watching her through different stages of her pregnancy knowing I should be right there with her in my own pregnancy. I pray that she has no complications and has a beautiful healthy baby as an outcome, as for me I'm sure I won't be so lucky. I'm so sorry to vent, I just needed to get that out somewhere and no one here seems to understand my pain. It's odd that I am feeling all this pain and have felt so alone all day then I come here and find this post. Ok now I'm crawling back under my rock to cry.

eguisgirl · 09-12-2009, 02:24 PM

Thank you for posting this..

jenvbear · 09-12-2009, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by HippieMama74

Thanks Jen for posting that. I have so many emotions right now. The not knowing and yet being pretty sure my baby is gone all at the same time. Having to be here to support my dd during her pregnancy is goin to be the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It's hard enough to see other people around you who's pregnancy sticks when your doesn't. Since my dd and I were only about 4 weeks apart I will be living with a daily reminder of the baby I lost. Watching her through different stages of her pregnancy knowing I should be right there with her in my own pregnancy. I pray that she has no complications and has a beautiful healthy baby as an outcome, as for me I'm sure I won't be so lucky. I'm so sorry to vent, I just needed to get that out somewhere and no one here seems to understand my pain. It's odd that I am feeling all this pain and have felt so alone all day then I come here and find this post. Ok now I'm crawling back under my rock to cry.

You're welcome Rachael....We're here for you mama. I can relate with watching friends/family members going through what you yourself should be too. I'm the admin on another board where myself and another mama both got pg w/in a week of eachother... well I lost mine and she's just about to hit 20 weeks and have her big u/s. I don't visit there that much anymore b/c it's too painful. That and my day care kiddo's mom is due 2 weeks before I was. I see her every day and she's really starting to show... feel her baby move... and just had her big u/s this week. It's not the same with living with it, but sucks all the same. Huge hugs mama. I'm so terribly sorry, but am holding on to that tiny glimmer of hope. I'm praying for that tiny bean to make it.

sbbeana · 09-12-2009, 03:23 PM

Thank you for posting this.
I'm 18 weeks pregnant now but I still feel like I should be delivering a baby in about 3.5 weeks.
Every time I see the October board my heart drops.

mbreen616 · 09-12-2009, 03:35 PM

Rachael, Cry all you need to Mama, and if you need to talk. We are here

I just wanted to say you are all such a great group of ladies and I am happy to be back on this board and hope to see everyone with their miracle baby.

crunchymamaNY · 09-12-2009, 07:02 PM

Well said. I agree with it all. When my mom lost my brother when she was pregnant, people said and did the same things as the "do not" list. Their biggest thing was, well at least you have your other kids....and at least you lost him early before you really got to know him. Those were so hurtful for her because she loved the baby growing inside her. When I lost my last baby very early, my husband....my own husband said...at least it was early. He was just as insensitive as the rest. Sometimes, even the people we love so dearly can be just as insensitive as the rest.

Jodi_P · 09-12-2009, 08:09 PM

Jen, as someone who has suffered 3 losses, I really really appreciate you sharing this. It really touched my heart...

lilbitcrunchy · 09-13-2009, 08:39 AM

Awesome post

lavender dragonfly · 09-13-2009, 09:48 AM

Thank you for posting this

amy329 · 09-16-2009, 06:12 AM

Thanks for posting this!

09-12-2009, 02:24 PM	#12
eguisgirl Registered Users Formerly: endoza Join Date: May 2007 Location: Seattle Posts: 5,524 Ratings: 193 Feedback: 100% My Mood:**	Re: What we wish you knew about pregnancy loss Thank you for posting this.. __________________ Hi! I'm Dawn. Wife and no label mama to my men: a Junior in high school, a 3rd grader, a preschooler, and a new baby born Aug 2012. STAT/PICC/L&D RN. Knitter. Friend. Follow our family journey towards God by finding joy through the simple things: http://eguisgirl.blogspot.com/

09-12-2009, 03:23 PM	#14
sbbeana Registered Users Join Date: May 2008 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 5,427 Ratings: 244 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: What we wish you knew about pregnancy loss Thank you for posting this. I'm 18 weeks pregnant now but I still feel like I should be delivering a baby in about 3.5 weeks. Every time I see the October board my heart drops. __________________ Stella - wife to Dale, mom to Owen (12/06), Nathan (2/10) and Elliott! (7/11)

09-12-2009, 03:35 PM	#15
mbreen616 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,497 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: What we wish you knew about pregnancy loss Rachael, Cry all you need to Mama, and if you need to talk. We are here I just wanted to say you are all such a great group of ladies and I am happy to be back on this board and hope to see everyone with their miracle baby. __________________ Megan, Mama to My sweet girl Mackenzie, my lovable little man Camden, missing my 8 angels in heaven

09-12-2009, 07:02 PM	#16
crunchymamaNY Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Western NY Posts: 3,421 Ratings: 193 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: What we wish you knew about pregnancy loss Well said. I agree with it all. When my mom lost my brother when she was pregnant, people said and did the same things as the "do not" list. Their biggest thing was, well at least you have your other kids....and at least you lost him early before you really got to know him. Those were so hurtful for her because she loved the baby growing inside her. When I lost my last baby very early, my husband....my own husband said...at least it was early. He was just as insensitive as the rest. Sometimes, even the people we love so dearly can be just as insensitive as the rest. __________________ Hi! I'm a Christian married mama of 4 beautiful children and expecting #5! I love to bake, sew, and learn how spend less money, as well as living more naturally.

09-12-2009, 08:09 PM	#17
Jodi_P Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: St. Louis, MO Posts: 560 Ratings: 60 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: What we wish you knew about pregnancy loss Jen, as someone who has suffered 3 losses, I really really appreciate you sharing this. It really touched my heart... __________________ Jodi Mama to Ally (4/07) & Evan (11/05) & DD#2 DUE MARCH 14!!!